I am 21 yrs old still in college work part time and hubby is 25 yrs old works for insurance company only been married 3.7 months he filed for divorce.Long story short we took 4 month break before marriage i had a fling ex.bf and got married unaware i was pregnant w/ ex.bf child. I told him he org. said he forgave me then 2 weeks later he moved out talking 90% of furniture w/him and severed all contact filed for divorce.Then about a week ago he calls me starts fights about when/how to put house up for sale.The next day he starts call for details about what happened with my ex.bf what his name is ect tells me i am a whore and he hates me.Yesterday while i was in the shower he came home and proceeded to try and join me(agressivley) i threw him out threatened call police.This morning i wake up to him coming into our bedroom saying he loves me wants me back?It almost turned into a physical fight.Whats going on in his head?Am i beeing to drastic if i change locks and go stay else where?
Hubby scaring me w/ mixed messages?Why?
you brought this all on yourself. t
no i am not excusing him from physically hurting you, but you are a married woman and just because you guys took a break, does not give you the green light to go arounding humping other men.
have you ever heard that men can't handle the truth, i would have never told him i slept with an ex bf. even if he does forgive you he will never forget. he is always going want details about the affair and i would not be surprise if he cheats on you.
Hubby scaring me w/ mixed messages?Why?
That's quite the mess you've gotten youreslf into.
How many times are you going to ask this same question? Why would your %26quot;hubby%26quot; want to stay someone who cheated on him during your %26quot;break%26quot; and then raise some other jerks kid?
I think he was just hoping to humiliate you through sex. Don't go away mad, just go away!
He loves you, he is just DEEPLY hurt about what happened with your ex. He will never be able to get over it. Because he can't erase what happened he will always hold resentment towards you. Cut your losses and save each other the heartache.
No, you aren't being too drastic. That's quite a mess...GET OUT while you still can and start thinking about your child!
He keeps trying to rape you! I think you're INSANE if you *don't* change your locks and file for a restraining order! Start calling the cops every. single. time. he comes to your house.
Sounds like he is crazy. Get a restraining order.
Your husband is not crazy - the whole incident TRULY fcuked him up psychologically/spiritually/emotionally and he doesn't know how to cope with what happend sis. I feel bad that you did that to him and I would probably skiitz the F* out if I was in his shoes too!! You don't EVEN know! However, the fact remains and you need to take full responsibility of what happend.
If you must, separate from him and stop talking to him.
Or you two should try marriage counseling (a good one!) and try to see if u can fix it from there. If not, move forward and like an iceberg stand firm, this is the consequence of your actions - face them, that's the only way you can truly learn and get the best benefit from a bad situation.
Holy crap dude!!! I'm not touching this one...
This hasd Jerry Springer written all over it!!
He's torn within himself. He loves you and hates you at the same time. He loves the woman he fell in love with but hates the woman he married who is pregnant with another man's child. You brought this on yourself and I have to say, you don't sound that broken up by what you've done. I'm sure there is more to the story, and I don't need to hear it all, but you cheated and that's bad enough. Men don't take cheating as well as women. But to be having the other man's child, I don't know one man that would stay married to a woman and be forced to watch her belly grown with another man's child. Wow, no wonder the poor smuck is going nuts. He doesn't know whether to s.hit or go blind. But I tell you this, he also could very easily hurt you. His emotions are out of control and he could be of the mind set that %26quot;if he can't have you no one will%26quot; and kill you, the unborn child and them himself. Seriously. So either hurry and sever the ties, sell the house, whatever you have to do, but let the man go. IF at some point he thinks he can deal with things, he may want you back. But you need to deal with some things on your own. Cheating is never the answer. Good luck.
Men have very big egos, meaning they can do to you what you can never do to them (have a fling). If your husband wants a divorce give him one. Don't under any circumstances discuss the details of what went on between you and your ex. It will only make matters worst. Your husband will never be able to forgive you, every time he looks at that baby he will be reminded of your infidelity, so the question is, are you willing the live with the physical and verbal abuse.
