Is it wrong for me to change the locks on my door while my boyfriend is at work? He is very disrespectful to my feelings and has means based reasons while he won't help me do anything. Basically if I refuse to have sex, he won't help with the kids in the morning saying to the kids %26quot; mommy didn't give me my medicine last night, she's being mean%26quot;. I was going to change the locks but forgot the key. My best frieind said to leave the locks messed up so when he comes home he will ask what is going on .Either he will get the hint to straighten up , or he'll make plans to leave before I throw him out. Basically she feels I should treat him how he treats me .When I confornt him about my feelings he will deny ant wrong doing and say I don't know what you are talking about , and that I should do the same when he asks about the locks. Oh by the way she said I should leave an apartment app on the counter filled out witih his info, calling it the eviction packet. What do tou think?
Is it wrong to change the locks on your boyfriend when financially he has no where to go ?
I think if you truely don't want to be with him than it's time to go your separate ways. I think you should do it in a more mature manner. You mentioned kids, you need to set a good example for them.
Is it wrong to change the locks on your boyfriend when financially he has no where to go ?
sounds like a scumbag
you need viagra
Stop playing games.
Kick his *** out, or move and get a restraining order.
change the locks on him. He that will make think twice about messing with you.
Don't be silly, and don't play his game. Your kids shouldn't be hearing that stuff from their father, it's time to tell him to leave. There is somebody else out there waiting for somebody just like you to come along, life is too short to be miserable over a guy. Tell him to buzz off and leave you and the kids alone.
It is not wrong at all to kick him out of your apartment and your life if he is being that disrespectful to you. You should treat him like he treats you.
Your girlfriend is a terrible source for advice. YOu have kids and a relationship and it is obvious that both of you need to learn how to treat others. Run dont walk to a therapist and try to work out your problems. Give the relationshipo a chance and maybe the two of you can be happy. If that doesn't work then you need a lawyer not a locksmith
the money is on he if he cant help it
but not helping with the kids get reid of him
YOU.. need to talk to him like an adult... Tell him this is NOT...working out.. He needs to help you...and especially...RESPECT YOU.. You are letting him disrespect you in front of your kids?? You need to have respect for yourself.. Why are you worrying about him not having money or a place to live.. HE ..obviously does not care to respect you, your home or your children!! HE is not even having sex with you? What if there is someone else? He is acting like a child... Don't do the same thing.... Don't send him hints and wait till he gets them...he might not want to take hints!.. Don't give him a chance to accept he is being disrespectful to you.. JUST.. tell him how you feel..and that you DON'T need..that..YOU need a real MAN.. that can give you love..support and respect. Is that not..what you want your kids to learn from you? BE STRONG.. you are a mother and you sound smart... It's not worth living with someone like that.... Girl....YOU DESERVE BETTER..and even on your own.. you are better off! GOOD LUCK!!
Ok, here is where I have experience with an ex husband. I not only changed the locks...I MOVED...and he was living out of his car. See, when I would help him, he was disrespectful, OH, and did I mention the fact that he tried to come back to me after his mistress kicked him out...and well hmm...LOVE has to be tough and there must be boundaries or you will be hurt even more. So also I must address your sex issue. NO NO NO NO NO That does not work...and not ever. Using sex as a weapon, bartering system is wrong. Enuf said on that one. Girl this is like a million questions...you sure demand a lot.
If he can't go anywehere financially - the apartment application would be a bit harsh/tacky.
Ok, the guy is a loser - and you're smart enough to recognize that.
Your friend is too - she would like you to have some 'sweet revenge' however, if you start playing games with him it can become more difficult to end it. You don't want to play games with him, you need him out of your life.
Your best option, yes change the locks. However... I don't know the guy's temperment. It might be best that you also plan on being gone that night. Go out with some friends annd have a good time. But ask another friend or two to stay at the place so if he causes any trouble (breaks a window to get in) they can be there to stop him.
Most likely scenario:
he comes home - door won't open, so he knocks.
Friend answers - hands him a suitcase with his personal stuff and tells him he don't live there no more.
He asks to talk to you
Friend says you're gone for the night.
(sorry for the ramblings - hope it helps)
good luck
